Sometimes it hurts

It is monday morning and I am feeling glum. Usually Monday mornings are one of my favorite times, I love getting back to the work that I love and Mondays always herald new beginnings, new designs, new focus. Yesterday I had mapped out in my mind exactly what I would do today, but I think I may just wallow, I think I may just sit.  I am letting that nasty, anonymous blog-bully get the best of me, despite my logic's pleading to just "let it go", despite my loved ones' pleading to "just let it go". I know that if I let if effect me, she has won, that her malicious comment has had it's desired effect, but I just can't help it..... Sometimes it hurts. 

So whoever you may be out there who decided to make yourself feel better by pulling me down, it worked!  Your words had the desired effect; you have succeeded in bringing out my insecurities, you have succeeded in making me want to shut myself off from everyone, taking away some of my confidence and making me sad.  But do you know what?  it is only a matter of time before that hurt turns to anger, before that anger turns into creative energy and until your desire to pull me down only results in making me stronger, only results in some great new designs, only increases my desire to do well. So for today I will let the hurt hurt, but I am also aware that someone only bullies to hide their own insecurities, to make themselves feel better, so I feel sorry for you!  I hope you will find some inner strength, some self worth and some peace.

Melly

... To all of our normal and beautiful blog readers or any visitors, we are so sorry for the down and depressing tone of this post but I just wanted the right of reply to someone who dares not leave a return email address.

Comments

[Lyn O]

Hi Melly, you bring a lot of joy to so many who just love to read your blog- and often we don't write a comment- I just enjoy reading about your wonderful creations and what inspires you - even your travels as they are places which I can only dream about through your descriptions and photos - it is great to see it through your eyes- it is unbelievable that someone can be so hurtful and only because they can do it anonymously which is the worst kind of bully there is- Stand tall, and enjoy the beginning of a new week! (and know that there are so many out there in blogland who would echo your loved ones' advice)

[Lea]

You have lots of lovely people that read your blog daily and a loving family and friends. You are better than this nasty person will ever be !!! Keep smiling the world loves you

[rachelmp]

I think you are a lovely person and talented designer, turn it into creativity and enjoy your beautiful family xx Rachel

[Beth]

Oh, Melly, I know how easy it is to let one critical comment tear you down (believe me, I read students' course evaluations after each class I teach!!), but remember for every person who wants to tear you down, there are HUNDREDS who you make happy through your patterns, your creative work, and your blog (as well as your family). Spend a few minutes calling this person foul names (just cause it's fun) and then don't let her have any more power over you!

[Lyn]

Oh, Melly! I think you rock! I love your designs, I love your creativity and I love your personality.
I would have been as affected as you are if it happened to me. But remember - people say hurtful words because they are Jealous (yes, a capital J) of who you are, and what you have become. Off with their heads! ;)
xx

[Mandy]

I don't know if I've ever left a comment on your blog before, but I just want to take this opportunity now to let you know how much I enjoy reading the things you write and looking at all of your wonderful creations! I'm so sorry that you've been bullied... and what a coward for that person to remain anonymous! You are loved and respected by many, let that thought pull you back up!

[Mandy]

Ahh Melly, we love you honey. In whatever mood you find yourself in. I think it's important to acknowledge the feelings we have. Better to wallow a bit, than to have grumpyness seep out slowly. Wriggle your toes in front of the fire, eat something yummy, read a favourite book, and you'll soon remember, life is good!

[gertie]

Whatever happened to the old adage "if you can't think of anything nice to say, then don't say anything"? Some people just love to be a critic and I agree with the previous comments, this bully is probably jealous. Keep your chin up- just look at your success and how many people love reading your blog and adore your creations!

[Doris]

I am so sorry to hear something bad happened to you. Don't know if this will make you feel any better but yours is one of my favorite blogs. I look forward to your posts, the lovely pictures, the inspiration. It's just plain enjoyable.
So, please don't let this get you down and take good care of yourself.

[Mary Jo Jones]

Melly...there seem to be spoilers everywhere. It is unfortunate that this person has consumed your thoughts for the day...do not let her win. You have a delightful blog which you share so openly. Thanks for all that you share with us...just delete the negative ones. Our world does not need it and neither do you.

Hugs, Mary Jo

[Kate]

That is awful for you. I can't believe the things people will say on the net and write in emails that they would never say to my face. It is hard to let it go, but you can't let mean people get to you.

[trashalou]

OMG! You tell me who the bad people are straight away and I will go and round up the mob! Quick everyone, sharpen your scythes and pitchforks.

Seriously, someone left horrible remarks? Hang in there until it does turn to anger sparked creative energy and WHAM! blow them out of the water with your talent.

[Bev]

Melly you are a beautiful person who is very gifted with your talents, there are way to many people out there that love you,just you remember that and try not let those horrible words get you down.
oxoxo

[DianeYoung]

Go trashalou! My pitchfork is ready!

Love your blog, Melly, and love all your critters! Just bought some of your patterns & can't wait to get started

[marie]

OMG! Melly, NO...dont let anyone pull you down, you are so much more than this...I have told you before, when you do something..anything...and put yourself out there, there will always be one or two that will try to bring you down. Its a fact of life, the green eyed monster is always amongst us, and sometimes it can be your so called best friend...be better than her..have your wallow in self pity..and its good to get the tear ducts active once in awhile, but just look at all these comments ALREADY..you are sweet, beautiful, and so creative Melly. And I am not the only one who thinks that obviously..sorry should have emailed...lol as usual I talk to much XX love ya!

[Fer]

Some people are just plain cruel, and really need to grow up and take responsibility for their actions.

I've always admired your talent, enthusiasm for your work and your boundless creativity. Now reading how you are dealing with your hurt I admire you even more.

Enjoy your quiet day, curl up with a good book and a hot cuppa. Tomorrow will be a better day.

[erika]

This is a sad situation, I heard about another bad hate mail from another blogger and it makes me question myself what's their point on doing that? If you do not like the blog just do not visit, not even bother making a stupid comment. yes it hurts but you now what that happens when you have success as many have said, we love you blog, do not let one or two ruin your crativity and your self-confidence because you have a wonderful gift that brings joy to many. The amazing thing is that with your creations you no only make us (the ones who make your creations)happy but also for those ones that we give what we have made. I bought your horse pattern some time ago because my girls love horses and now that one of them is going to have her b-day It will be part of her gifts and you know what. because of you my girls will be happy beyond any hate mail. I am sure about that. I wish we can do something and tell our blogg providers to take off that anonymos option because is a coward way to do things
cheer up and do not pay atention to it count your blessings an you will see how bless you are.

[Renee]

Hugs Melly

[Bonney]

I don't understand why people have to do something like leaving comments that are nasty. You have to know it's someone who is unbalanced and very jealous of your beautiful life and talent. Your fans want you to be a duck and let it flow off your back. Someone out there leads a very unhappy existence; pity them.

[cherrie]

I don't know what to say except that it is terrible if people use their power to hurt. Bigs hugs from a reader.

[Andi]

What did the nasty insecure little #$%&^ say?
Let me at 'em!!!!
Andi :-)

[cherrie]

By the way, I hear chocolate is good for depression. I'm sure you need lots.

[Heather Miller]

Hi , i have never left a comment before but felt compelled to do so.I love reading your blog and looking at your creations.I recently was very hurt by someone who told a lie about me,it was devastating at first but then all my collegues surrounded me with their warmth and i felt much better [ after a few days !] I now feel pity for this person and know they are just a miserable human being.BELIEVE IN YOURSELF- keep going you bring joy to others. kind regards

[Lauren]

Just wanted to add my support for you. Your success speaks for itself and the tone of your blog is always friendly. I think it's a good idea to let your emotions take time to process, knowing full well that this person's nastiness will indeed eventually turn into creative energy. Love your blog and your designs and hope you are feeling better soon.

[Donna A]

Hi Melly, I think all your designs are wonderful. I have made quite a few of your bags and softies and they have all turned out beautifully and I have enjoyed making them. Don't let one persons nastiness get you down. Cheer up, you have heaps of followers that love your work.